“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk took to blossom” ~Anaïs Nin This might be the moment when you decide to change your life, even if it’s too risky. Most of the times people love to stay in the comfort zone and they go into an autopilot mode. But there is no growth inside your comfort zone. I did numerous things which I was so uncomfortable doing but I did it anyway. I turned out so many opportunities just because I felt it wasn’t something I wanted to do. Because I was done with my autopilot mode. If someone tells you you can’t do anything or you won’t succeed, just don’t respond to them. But tell yourself in your mind that you can!!
There is no point in arguing with someone who doesn’t believe in you. Instead, show them how talented you are!! What happens if a caterpillar is refusing to come out of its cocoon? Is it what you are also doing?
⠀ What’s inside the envelope of your heart? ⠀ ⠀ Whatever the answer might be, it’s a secret between you and only you. ⠀ ⠀ You may think that your favorite self was your past self or your favorite self will be your future self. ⠀ ⠀ Either way l, how will you uncover the answers? ⠀ ⠀ I have a suggestion for you. ⠀ ⠀ Write a letter to yourself!! ⠀ ⠀ Open the envelope of your heart and pour all the love this person to whom you are writing this letter. ⠀
⠀ Tell them ⠀ how strong they are, ⠀ the way they are overcoming each obstacle, ⠀ ways they are healing each of the wounds.⠀ ⠀ Make them realize their worth,⠀ all the wonderful abilities they have,⠀ how unique and special they are. ⠀ ⠀ You might be thinking that you had only a bud if love in your heart.⠀ ⠀ But you will realize that your bud has now grown into a beautiful flower despite all the unfavorable conditions.⠀ ⠀ When you open this letter 5 years from now, you will be amazed!! ⠀ ⠀ You will realize how silly is your 90% of current problems, then!! ⠀ ⠀ So ⠀ Would you like you, if you met you??⠀
How many of you love to go with the flow? I was someone who always thought of going in the flow. But Not anymore.
I can’t just sit and watch how my life goes without any clue what the destination is.
There are, of course, certain things that I surrendered it to the universe, but ultimately those are things that I have always wished for. I would rather be the flow than go with the flow. At least I have an idea to where I’m flowing.
There are times that I resist my flow with my own limiting beliefs and anxieties. Nevertheless, I’m working on myself each and every single day.
Don’t go with the flow, Be the flow.
Flow through, new experience and new challenges; over pebbles of your struggles; covering kilometres of the journey to your dream life.
Today I would like to talk about a book which influenced me a lot.
It’s The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
This little book talks about the 4 agreements that one make with himself, to live a peaceful and fulfilled life.
For me keeping this agreement seems tedious. But I’m sure that the effect of all the inner chaos can be healed to an extent if I tried to keep these agreements even 50%.
The 4 agreements are:
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Words, either it’s yours or others, they are powerful. How you talk to yourself matters the most. One of the core reasons for our self-doubt and fears are how we talk and how others talk about us.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Most of the conflicts occur among people when they take things personally. If someone says that we are awful, we become angry or irritated, and this results in total mental conflicts and problems in our relationships with others and ourselves. You do you!! Does someone hate you? Fine. Leave them alone. You know what you are in the true authentic self and that’s enough.
3. Don’t make assumptions
I’m so expert in making assumptions and jumping into conclusions. But when I communicate well, I tend to make fewer assumptions and try to understand the circumstance better. For me keeping clear communications with people matters the most. It helps me to get clear on things and avoid unnecessary anxieties or mess.
4. Always do your best.
Do your best. The best in your perspective. Not others. While reflecting back, if you feel that you have given your best, then there is no room for guilt or sadness in your mind. Your best might not be the best in someone else’s perspective. And that’s okay.
These agreements may sound simple. But keeping these agreements with yourself might not be as easy as it seems to be. But there is no harm in trying. Right??
Which is the one book that influenced you in your life? Share with us. Because sharing is caring!! ?
This post is dedicated to someone who never gives up on me, even when I don’t keep all these agreements. Grateful?
Do you know the story of 4 minutes mile? Okay, let me tell you what it is.
Is it possible to run a mile in 4 minutes? Of course, it is.
But in the 1950s it was like trying to catch the moon with hands.
Many famous athletes tried to cover a mile in 4 minutes, since 1886. But all of their efforts turned out to be fruitless.
The 4 min mile stood as a barrier for decades and made people believe that it is impossible for a human to achieve it. Experts stated that one can cover a mile in 4 mins only when the temperature is 68 degrees with no wind, and the track being hard and dry.
But on a cold day, in a wet track, a man called Roger Bannister broke the 4-minute barrier in just 3 minutes 59 secs!! Bannister, at the age of 25 made headlined around the world on May 6th, 1954 as the first person to run a mile under 4 minutes.
When may people considered the 4-minute mile as unachievable, Bannister went that extra mile even though it felt terrific.
When many athletes gave up after trying, he decided to be exceptional. He went for that EXTRA effort which made him EXTRA- ordinary from ordinary.
We too have those 4 minutes miles, that are standing as a barrier in our dream life. Many of us leave our race midway because of the myth that our goal is unachievable. But we often forget that when we go that extra mile, the road is uncrowded and clear.
Before leaving something midway, think for a moment.
What if you decided to take that risk? What if you go that extra mile? What if the road to your dreams is uncrowded and you can travel through it solo?
It is said that about 20 people broke the 4 minutes mile barrier within one year of Bannister’s world record. Why?? Because he did something impossible. Or something that people believed to be impossible.
Don’t be afraid to shine. Because your sunshine can make some other’s sunflowers to bloom!! ?