“And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk took to blossom” ~Anaïs Nin This might be the moment when you decide to change your life, even if it’s too risky. Most of the times people love to stay in the comfort zone and they go into an autopilot mode. But there is no growth inside your comfort zone. I did numerous things which I was so uncomfortable doing but I did it anyway. I turned out so many opportunities just because I felt it wasn’t something I wanted to do. Because I was done with my autopilot mode. If someone tells you you can’t do anything or you won’t succeed, just don’t respond to them. But tell yourself in your mind that you can!!
There is no point in arguing with someone who doesn’t believe in you. Instead, show them how talented you are!! What happens if a caterpillar is refusing to come out of its cocoon? Is it what you are also doing?
Today I would like to talk about a book which influenced me a lot.
It’s The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz.
This little book talks about the 4 agreements that one make with himself, to live a peaceful and fulfilled life.
For me keeping this agreement seems tedious. But I’m sure that the effect of all the inner chaos can be healed to an extent if I tried to keep these agreements even 50%.
The 4 agreements are:
1. Be impeccable with your word.
Words, either it’s yours or others, they are powerful. How you talk to yourself matters the most. One of the core reasons for our self-doubt and fears are how we talk and how others talk about us.
2. Don’t take anything personally.
Most of the conflicts occur among people when they take things personally. If someone says that we are awful, we become angry or irritated, and this results in total mental conflicts and problems in our relationships with others and ourselves. You do you!! Does someone hate you? Fine. Leave them alone. You know what you are in the true authentic self and that’s enough.
3. Don’t make assumptions
I’m so expert in making assumptions and jumping into conclusions. But when I communicate well, I tend to make fewer assumptions and try to understand the circumstance better. For me keeping clear communications with people matters the most. It helps me to get clear on things and avoid unnecessary anxieties or mess.
4. Always do your best.
Do your best. The best in your perspective. Not others. While reflecting back, if you feel that you have given your best, then there is no room for guilt or sadness in your mind. Your best might not be the best in someone else’s perspective. And that’s okay.
These agreements may sound simple. But keeping these agreements with yourself might not be as easy as it seems to be. But there is no harm in trying. Right??
Which is the one book that influenced you in your life? Share with us. Because sharing is caring!! ?
This post is dedicated to someone who never gives up on me, even when I don’t keep all these agreements. Grateful?